More luvin' or just dumb?

Sometimes, I'm inspired to write entries because I run into multiple events or factoids that lead me to think long and hard in one direction or another. So, today children, I'm thinking about polygamy.

First, I think it's worth noting that in all the proposed legislation aimed at "protecting the sanctity" of marriage, marriage is generally defined as involving specifically "one" man and "one" woman. We all, of course, have been sidetracked by the implications this sort of legislation would have on same sex couples. But, we have entirely ignored the implications this has on those folks out there who want multiple spouses.

So, what has me thinking about multiple spouses? I read an article yesterday about a new series on HBO which will focus on a family with three wives. The series is set in a remote out post, and the fact of the multiple wives is hidden from the neighbors, and as the article pointed out - the women cast are a whole lot more attractive and interested in sex and themselves than the polygamous wives we have all seen on talk shows.

In contrast, the article commented on a few of the more famous issues of multiple marriages -- mostly in Utah and small splinter groups of highly religious types.

In contrast, I also read a column written by a woman who takes pains to explain her "polyamorous lifestyle." She has a primary partner that she shares her home with, and there exist "secondary" partners that she and her partner have relationships with outside the primary. There seems to be a very well coordinated dance of the many folks involved.

I, personally, have always prided myself in thinking that I was smarter than to complicate my life by having to juggle more than one spouse. In fact, I've even thought that if the Phenom and I end up not together, for whatever reason, that I'd spend the rest of my little monkey life on my own. Being responsible for another is hard work. Worrying about another is hard on the heart. It seems that it would most definitely be the "easy" way out to just use the random human for monkey luvin' and expect them to leave early so I can get some sleep.

That being said, it occurred to me -- I sort of do have a second spouse! Scary how easily these things creep up on you. We have a friend, a person who works with the Phenom and who lives out of town, when he works in town, stays with us. I have actually referred to this person as my "No. 2 Spouse." Come to think of it, No. 2 Spouse doesn't generate laundry, eats what ever is put in front of him, offers to do dishes and does not require family obligations. Maybe I've been all wrong in my thoughts on polygamy. Then again, The Phenom vacuums and cleans toilets and only occasionally complains of "monkeystank."