when you will influence someone.
I contacted Frances of the previous story to share the story with her. Her response was "who the heck was Deb?" She had no memory of the conversation, but appreciated my sharing.
Reminds me of another story. Shortly after the Old Folks decided I could pass in public school, I had a teacher who required daily journal entries. Often, she would offer a writing prompt. One time, the prompt was something we wanted to learn to do, and what was preventing us from doing it.
I wrote that I really wanted to learn to cook, but I didn't want to be defined by my domestic skills. I had the buddings of being a feminist and already understood that society was all too happy to pin a single role onto the females.
My teacher wrote on my page that cooking was a wonderful creative outlet, and I shouldn't let what others say prevent me from expressing myself.
Even now, when I make something particularly good, I always think of this teacher. Several years ago, I managed to find her and write to her about the lasting influence her words had on my life. She had no recollection of it at all.
Take care with your words and actions because you never know when they will be deeply influential to another.