My favorite 13 year old is on the cusp of becoming my favorite 14 year old. Over the last year, it has been fun to see her start to adopt "teenagery" behaviors. The way she flips her hair, the language, and the semi-permenant state of being non-plused.
Last night, she drew me into a conversation where clearly she wanted help, but didn't want to actually ask for it. I always take that bait. It turns out, she has a crush and has decided to do the "ask" for the date. But, as with any venture of this sort, the thought that it could go very badly had caused her to hesitate. We discussed the pros and cons. I encouraged. I made the rule "no naked selfies."
Tonight, she said she was going to do it. She was going to make the ask. Then, there was brief hesitation . . . and then plunging in. I crossed all my monkey fingers and toes in hopes the object of the crush wouldn't crush her. BUT! NO! SUCCESS! A DATE IS FORTHCOMING!!!
And, it was wonderful to see my favorite teenager so giddy and excited. I felt bad that I was getting to share this with her and her parents were in another room. (We do this all online as we live several hundred miles apart.)
I asked what made this person so amazing? Nearly 14 year old said it would take a whole paragraph to describe. I asked for the top three. She said "only three?" Finally, her top three things that make her like this person are: 1) not afraid to stand up for themselves, 2) likes books and 3) believes in supernatural things.
Not bad for a first crush. In fact, if I were to try to find someone for Nearly 14 year old to date, these might be characteristics I'd look for too.
I'm just so taken in with how very privileged I am that I got to share this moment with her. I'm pretty sure this will be one of my all time favorite memories. I got lucky tonight.