So, in my little world, there has been much discussion about the recent Esquire Mag. article about how some wanker has sent out the word to other wankers (and I use the term wanker as a noun and a verb) that "42 year old women" are now totally "boner worthy."
Yeah, it's offensive. These are the dudes who couldn't work up the courage to talk to a woman in their 20's, had crushes on totally out of their league women in their 30's, had some fairly unsatisfying trysts in their 40's, and now that they are balding, sporting a beer gut, and realizing they will probably die alone, have decided to do woman-kind the favor of expanding their definition of those worthy of their attentions. Barf.
But, it annoys me for another, totally selfish, reason. If the creepers out there are now going to be turning their sights on persons in their 40's, I lose my invisibility. DAMN IT.
When I was a teen monkey, and hit puberty, it was a weird mix of exciting and mortifying. Then, by college, I'd kinda gotten use to it. AND SHAZAM! in college the dudes appreciated me for being smart and cute. So much different from high school where I was pretty much an undateable nerd. It was fun. There was some power in it.
When I settled down to being an adult with a real relationship and real job, I wanted to be taken seriously for my character and hard work, so I became very modest. In my 30's, I decided that I was no longer in danger of not being taken seriously because of my age. Then, I hit my 40's. And I became invisible. Men no longer looked at me like bait anymore. Any flirting that happens is of the totally harmless sort. And, I have the luxury of not giving a flip about what people think about how I dress or what I do, because I'm mostly invisible anyway.
Hopefully, the knuckle draggers around here are too busy wanking to read the manifesto in over rated men's mags to make my existence to difficult. However, I think that the dudes who are likely to think they are doing 42 year old women a "favor" by hitting on them may find that our bullshit meters are very delicately tuned these days.